A funny thing happened on the way to the Forum…

Not really, but a funny thing did happen on the weekend.

I went to a party, possibly the first in 10 years! A real party, you know, a band, people dressed in silly green clothes (it was St Patricks Day), substandard finger food and a lot of alcohol.

I have been laid low with a nasty virus and am still recovering, so I ate before I went and confined myself to soda water whilst at the “do”. I went to meet new people, to extend my circle of friends, to see if there are people who might like to get to know me better; I went because I am emerging from the doldrums and wanting to take life by the horns (so to speak).

The funny thing that happened, was that the women I spoke with at the party, melted away when they found out I was in the throes of divorce. Not only that, but they seemed to wander over to their partners and guard them! MjAxMi1mNjRmOGY3ZTdhMmRmNDdh

It didn’t occur to me that this was happening until after I got home and the shame was I thought a couple of them could have been potential friends.

I wanted to shout, “I am not after your husbands and partners Ladies!!!”

My ex is hanging around like a bad smell and I need more complication in my life like a hole in the head! I am not looking for anyone, let alone someone already in a relationship (that has always been a STOP sign for me). I know what it is like to have someone threaten the stability of a relationship, it’s not something I would ever aspire to, men are just not worth it!

When I arrived at work this morning, I discussed this with my work colleague and she said it is common and it definitely happened to her. I think this is quite frankly pretty weird and very sad, are we not better than that???

I would love some comment from people who have experienced this, as the divorced woman, the predatory woman or the wronged woman; I just can’t get my head around it.

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5 thoughts on “A funny thing happened on the way to the Forum…

  1. Oh yes, I remember this phenomenon well! It is so hard to tell someone, especially friends (yes, they do it too!) that you wouldn’t touch their husbands with a 10 foot pole. I have some interesting stories to tell. It was like a miracle once I re-partnered, all my friends were happy to see me again. Remembering this, I have been happy to share my husband (not in the biblical sense!) with all my single friends, and he has been wonderful in terms of helping them with maintenance issues, etc. I don’t have any advice for managing this, I’m afraid.

  2. Oh yes, I remember this phenomenon well! It is so hard to tell someone, especially friends (yes, they do it too!) that you wouldn’t touch their husbands with a 10 foot pole. I have some interesting stories to tell. It was like a miracle once I re-partnered, all my friends were happy to see me again. Remembering this, I have been happy to share my husband with all my single friends, and he has been wonderful in terms of helping them with maintenance issues, etc. I don’t have any advice for managing this, I’m afraid.

  3. It is a weird phenomenon and I suppose I was lucky that most of my friend were single and seeing clubbing wasn’t my scene I decided to go to dance lessons, at least anyone there was single, or at least happy to dance with you.

  4. Yes, I’ve dealt with that situation too. When I was newly divorced, some friends on the fringe in my married life were acting that way too. Their husbands had sympathy for me (my ex left us) and they were kind. I was nice to them and their husbands as I had always been, but the ladies were watching their husbands with me the whole time. Oh please! I wanted to tell them. I don’t want your husbands. I’m going to enjoy a little quiet for now. My real friends and their husbands were perfectly fine with me which helped a lot.

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